Politeness strategies of the pembayun(s) in the bride-kidnapping practices of sasak culture

• Main Authors: Yaqin, Lalu Nurul, Shanmuganathan, Thilagavathi
• Format: Article
• Published: Universiti Putra Malaysia 2020
• Subjects: GT Manners and customs; P Philology. Linguistics
• Online Access: http://eprints.um.edu.my/24668/; http://www.pertanika.upm.edu.my/Pertanika%20PAPERS/JSSH%20Vol.%2028%20(1)%20Mar.%202020/06%20JSSH-4176-2018.pdf
• Institution: Universiti Malaya

Bride-kidnapping is considered a violation of human rights in many cultures worldwide, but among the Sasak people of Lombok, it has deep customary implications. While the act itself is consensual between the couple, it is an occasion for the families to confront each other and discuss settlements or dispute the offers between each other. The negotiation is a show of tradition or customary norms where politeness strategies is observed during the discussions between the two disputing parties affected by the bride-kidnapping. During the discussions, rituals such as Sejati, Selabar, and Sorong Serah are conducted to neutralise anxiety, address face attacks and reduce disputes that may have arisen due to the bridekidnapping. In these three rituals, the language resources of the representatives of both families, also known as Pembayun (adat leaders), is to negotiate and come to a settlement through polite discourse. This study is an ethnographic enquiry and data were analysed based on Brown and Levinson's model of politeness. The study revealed that the most preferred strategy was negative politeness used by both the Pembayun in the bridekidnapping rituals. The notion of politeness and the strategies in which it is achieved in communication is culture-bound and culture-specific. © 2020 Universiti Putra Malaysia Press.